A friend of mine is currently reading “He’s Just Not That Into You” – I know, she’s behind the times. But it got me thinking about addressing choices not just about men and relationships, but about life in general.
So here is this blog’s version of “He’s Just Not That Into You,” and it’s called “Good Luck With That Ugly Mess.”
Mrs. Mess knows better than most that there are plenty of messes from which you just need to extricate yourself. Much like a guy who is not going to come around, let’s embrace a few truisms to help us deal and let go.
I want to share three main thoughts on coping and getting out of generally ugly messes:
1) Set standards and stick to them.
A good portion of the time, we get ourselves into ugly messes because we make exceptions instead of sticking to our standards in the first place. Don’t let exceptions become an expectation, by you or those around you. Be know for your standards!
2) Don’t expect things to add up when a crucial piece is missing.
There’s only so much you can do, so if it still isn’t working, ask yourself what’s missing. If you’ve been “just trying to get by” in your job for 8 months, maybe you need a new job. It isn’t crazy to acknowledge that there may be an important piece to the puzzle that’s missing in your current situation, and maybe that’s why it’s an mess.
3) If you thought of it at the end, it might be too late.
Thinking ahead will get you far, particularly in avoiding ugly messes. If you didn’t think ahead, be open to the fact that it might too late to add something that was needed in the beginning. I have in fact gotten to the point of putting a cake in the oven only to realize that I never added the eggs. It happens, and we get through the ugly messes that ensue.
No matter what, always remember that there is meaning in the mess, even if it’s ugly!